Right now, We are aging, and the time will come that we have to prepare ourselves for retirement, including our marriage.
Yes, you need to prepare your marriage for retirement. You might say, “Why should I if we’ve been together for 30 plus years?
I thought about that too, and what I wanted to secure before my retirement was my financial stability that can support my aging needs.
I do not want to be a burden to my family, and at first, I never thought that I should have to prepare my marriage until I found out for myself.
We often think of retirement as an escape from a busy and stressful life.
We look forward to it because it is time that we don’t need to go to work, and to wake in the morning, enjoy a good breakfast and a hot coffee or without rushing to work. That we can spend more time on our hobbies, go on a Caribbean vacation and enjoy more things in life.
But remember that this is also a time to spend more quality time with your family, especially with your spouse or partner. So for you to enjoy your retirement, try to invest some time, energy, and commitment to create thoughtful planning for your marriage before retirement.
Here are some questions to start with:
❓As this is the time you will spend more time with your spouse than ever before. Are you ready?
❓Are you ready to meet new challenges that might test your relationship?
❓ As a couple, are you excited to make the most of your time and opportunities?
❓❓ And are you financially prepared and secure in your retirement?
Are you prepared to take new steps in this next phase of your life and live it as best as it can be?
Couples in Retirement
We have to understand that you and your spouse may have different plans, attitudes, and priorities about retirement.
And this is crucial that you both identified this beforehand.
You have to know each one preference and the time that you want to spend together. You may have a different plan on weekends, and your spouse may have other activities with friends. Having proper communication about this ahead will help you prevent any ground of disagreements.
Remember that having these kinds of plan differences doesn’t mean he or she doesn’t care for you or your family. It would help if you had time spent apart because it can make your relationship healthy. Giving space and time for them to do stuff that makes them happy can also bring joy back to your marriage. It reduces any guilty feelings or resentments.
If a person enjoys what he does, he or she carries that positive energy into their relationship. It means it can make a happy marriage as well.
There was once a professor who asked a group of students how much a glass of water weighed? What’s your answer? As the professor gets various answers, he explains that it depends on how long you hold it. Holding it for a minute will not be a problem, but the longer you have it, the heavier it may seem, and it causes ache in your arms. It is the same as in your relationship in retirement. The longer you do not discuss your plans, preferences, expectations, and other thoughts, the more significant heartaches it may cause, or blogger issues may arise. Any differences or unmet expectations may cause arguments or, worse, long-standing resentments that you can’t hold anymore.
Questions that need to be cleared to prepare your marriage for retirement
1. What is the perfect day, week, and month of retirement would look like?
2. What time do you target to wake up every morning?
3. Do you like eating breakfast, lunch, and dinner with your spouse?
4. What are household responsibilities that need to be done, and who will do it?
5. Do you need bonding time together in a day? How many hours?
1. What do your combined and separate social networks look like during your retirement?
2. Do you have plans to have outdoor activities with your friends? How often will it be?
3. What are your conditions when getting out?
4. Who among you does the majority of social planning? Will it be a burden?
1. Will there be any effect on your family once you retire?
2. Will you like to spend more time or more visits with them?
3. How do you see yourself with your grandkids?
4. Will you share your retirement plans with your family?
1. What will be your healthy habits?
2. How will you take care of your physical and mental health?
3. What bad habits should you lessen or curbed down on?
4. Do you have any healthy activities you like to try?
1. Do you have enough savings for long-term needs?
2. Are you prepared for any sudden financial expenses?
3. Do you feel like getting a financial advisor?
4. How will you protect your savings and cover in case of death and incapacitation?
These questions will help you cover the essential aspects of retirement. It will help you create a healthy relationship. Use this organized and guided conversation to have ideas on each other’s expectations and goals. It will also make both of you aware of both feelings, so regular discussion is encouraged. But you as a couple should work on this. It is not something that the only one should figure out on their own.
Steps to have a healthy, happy, and connected retirement
1. Identify what you want to become when you are not working
You have to know who you are once you are not working at all. How do you see yourself? How do you spend the day?
2. Create healthy habits
Now is also the time that you engage yourself in activities that will help you promote your health. You are aging, and you also want to enjoy your free time, so having healthy habits will help you reduce the chances of getting sick and be stuck at home or hospital care? It is best to choose habits that will help you stay mentally and physically sharp.
3. Create a stronger relationship with your loved ones.
Now that you don’t need to spend more time at work, take the chance to spend more time with. Try to bond with your spouse, children, and grandchildren, as this will help you strengthen your relationship with your family that you might miss in your early life.
4. Be surrounded by the right people.
Yes, you still have to choose the right people to get along with. Make sure that these people are those who genuinely care and love you. Surrounding yourself with the right friends also helps you prevent any vices or uncertain events and conditions.
Enjoy your marriage and retirement at the same time.
Who doesn’t want to enjoy our retirement? It is something we look forward to as we age, so we have to make sure that we prepare ourselves for it, especially our marriage. It is the time that we need to focus on your relationship and your health. You have to be open with one another about how you both spend retirement together and give each other space simultaneously. Give time to talk about and prepare for this as a couple. I’m sure you’ll enjoy your retirement life more and live a happy, healthy, and have a stronger connection with your spouse, family, and friends.